Log in

Previous 10

Jan. 10th, 2012


(no subject)

make a real wish
make a real wish

Oct. 27th, 2009



Found on the Internet today: a discussion of the fluidity of sexuality, abridged.

"I've known plenty of women who stated they did not experience a sexual attraction to other women until they met a certain woman in their thirties (known some even in their forties). My girlfriend's Mom's refrain to her years ago was how can you like a woman when you were so boy crazy and had stated you had never been attracted to a woman before. She simply told her Mom she just does.

It can go the other way. One of my best friends, a self identified lesbian (until this point a gold star), fell hard for a guy a year ago and is now pregnant and is very much in love with him. [Some people] want an absolute but [can't have] it. [They] want it all defined but that is not how it always works. Sometimes one finds love where they don't expect it. That's one of the cool things about life."

Blah, blah, Kinsey scale, I'm a pansexual/trysexual/what have you. It's all hippy-dippy and an amazing experience - *unless* you're the poor sap who gets left behind when your significant other finds out that they now love someone else, who isn't you.

Years ago, a friend of mine asked me what my stance on monogamy and committed relationships is. I told her that you have no business committing to anyone or anything if you still find yourself wanting to sow your proverbial wild oats. If you don't think you can be faithful and you don't yet know what or who you want, stay the fuck away from anything that even remotely looks like a relationship. I'm all for finding yourself and whatnot, but not at the expense of hurting someone along the way. That's just irresponsible, and inexcusable.

And on a personal note, I can't stand a person who doesn't know what they want. That just turns the entire deal into one big fucking waste of my time, and I hate having my time wasted. If you're still floating along trying to figure yourself out, I don't want none of your time. Get to steppin'.

Jun. 26th, 2009


Michael Jackson

What with all the eulogizing of Michael Jackson this week, I can't help but put down my own thoughts.

Be warned, though; this is *not* a euology.Collapse )

Apr. 19th, 2009


Random Notes: Supernatural

So word on the street is that there going to be a third brother on Supernatural. I lost interest in this show after the first year or so, but this is an interesting development. Since according to my research Sam can move objects with his mind and gets premonitions, I am now expecting Dean to receive the ability to freeze time and blow shit up, and the new kid to be able to teleport from place to place in a cloud of blue light particles and levitate or whatever.

Jul. 8th, 2007


Gay Rights

Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? - Ernest Gaines

"We would like to know who really believes in gay rights on Livejournal. There is no bribe or a miracle or anything like that. If you truly believe in gay rights, then repost this and title the post as "Gay Rights". If you don't believe in gay rights, then just ignore this. Thanks.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."

Apr. 27th, 2007


Most. Repulsive. Fanfic. Ever. Theoretically speaking.

Randomly today, I was trying to put together a list of every fanfic trope/scene that I detest, in order to construct what I would call the Most Repulsive Fanfic Ever. Judgment based solely on the themes used in the story itself, and not taking quality of writing (not that it would make a difference in this case) into account. So far I've come up with:

Cross-generational heterosexual incest
Foot fetishism
Coprophilia/Scatological anything
Men wearing mascara or any other cosmetic substance
Gender-bending/hermaphrodites, naturally occurring or otherwise
Torture as a sexual stimulant
Self-harm or whatever ridiculous concept tweenage badfic writers are currently using to artificially induce angst

More items possibly to come. Because the above compilation isn't scary enough.

Apr. 14th, 2007



So I just got wind of an old, now fairly distant friend of mine who recently got married. He's barely a few months older than I am.

Now I'll admit, this has been happening with my friends and acquaintances for several years now. And I like to think I've gotten used to it in large part. When you get to be about 4 years younger than I am - apparently - modern society dictates that you must find a mate and settle down ASAP. The quicker to get started on your divorce proceedings, I suppose.

As this situation has been happening several times a year for the past 3-4 years, I've pretty much run the gamut of emotional reactions: bitterness, shock, best wishes, etc. But this one is just mind-blowing, and I'm not quite sure how I'm going to feel about it in the end. This friend of mine who is now married was the original eternal bachelor. This guy is the one who never wanted to tie himself down to anything and just wanted to dick around and have fun - something I was expressly told, multiple times, back when I was 24 and ready to be married myself.

To be honest, the one thing that's sticking in my mind is "God, where did the time go?" Because for this guy to have changed his mind and gotten married already...Christ, I never thought that would happen in 200 years, let alone 2 years. [sarcasm] I can't wait to see what this feeling will be like when my friends and I are all 30. [/sarcasm]

Well. I may not be encountering drastic life changes and milestones of human existence. But at least I'm not getting any older, either.

Aug. 1st, 2006


Boycott Mel Gibson?

So people are asking online if Mel Gibson's alleged anti-Semitic rantings during his recent arrest would lead anyone to boycott his work.

Me, I've ben boycotting his crap since he put out the televised execution most people know as The Passion Of The Christ. That alone sent a flag up for me that the man was deeply disturbed. Having him spit it out into the open the way he has now is largely just vindication.

I don't care what religion you ascribe to; hate and prejudice - of anyone, for whatever reason - are two of the most Godless things you can indulge in.

Jul. 27th, 2006



So today I had the complete misfortune of seeing someone on LJ whose avatar featured Calvin of Calvin & Hobbes urinating on the world "Q'Ran".

I'm sorry, but when the fuck did shit like that become okay? I don't care how many goddamned Islamic fundamentalist terrorists are running around out there - that kind of disrespect and the mindset that accompanies it is as abominable as that held by those selfsame fanatics. Crap like that is tantamount to setting a cross on fire and putting it up on a black family's lawn because you heard on the news that someone got mugged by a black person.

Or perhaps I'm mistaken - resorting to hate, prejudice, and blatant ignorance and stupidity makes you better than the people you're attempting to rail against? I missed the societal memo on that, yes?

My God, some excuses for people... What unmitigated, irredeemable blights on society you are!

Jul. 18th, 2006


On The Psychology Of "When Sex Attacks!!!"

In television today, it is becoming more and more common to see episodes in which the plot appears to revolve around the punishment in some form or another of an individual for daring to engage in sexual intercourse. Shows such as House are particularly guilty of this trope, as patients seen on this medical drama often develop rare and deadly medical complications stemming directly from or as a byproduct of having had sex. Many audience members who comment about such phenomenon online are eager to dismiss the origin of such stories as the effect of overbearing moral values, or Puritanical upbringings. However, I believe that a different origin of this phenomenon is more likely and/or common amongst writers, and I will attempt to illustrate it herein.

Anyone who has written a piece of fiction may have noticed that, as an author, they have the ability to create and control entire universes within their work. A writer dictates how characters behave, how their lives work, how fate and destiny affect them; the writer decides what form life takes, on what world a given event takes place, etc. For a writer creating a work of fiction, all of reality is mutable. More to the point, all of reality is mutable by them. By creating any work of fiction, a writer endows themselves with absolute omnipotence. Within the world they create, however big or small, the writer becomes the closest thing to God.

However, writers are still human, and humans are not God, or gods, even; we have only human emotions, experiences, and perspectives to draw upon. And now matter how much a writer may try to be objective, that human bias will always color a writer's perception and find its way in the world he or she creates in fiction. More specifically, human writers, when they create characters and the world they occupy, will often feel driven to create conflict and drama by rewarding certain characters and punishing others. This is especially true of writers who, in following the old adage of "write what you know," draw heavily upon their own lives and experiences to write about characters and situations. With this in mind, it is at least a little more understandable that some writers, in depicting a fictional situation, may be consciously or subconsciously petty and/or vindictive with their characters.

Additionally, many people who write have not exactly led the most perfect and/or satisfying lives. One of the strongest drives to write creatively is to create a more favorable world, where people are and events occur as the writer wishes them to - often out of a sense of dissatisfaction with the way things are in reality. Returning to the subject of sex, a writer may have been rejected by a callous lover, or had an unpleasant sexual experience, or denied the experience of sex altogether for one reason or another. Life events such as these can breed resentment of more fortunate individuals who have had different and more favorable experiences. This resentment may develop into rudimentary or full-blown inferiority or persecution complexes. In any case, when a writer feels thusly, one of the most therapeutic activities they can engage in to remedy the feelings is to write themselves a world in which things happened differently.

In such a world, the writer's resentment, combined with the writer's self-endowed omnipotence, can be expressed in the petty or vindictive act of reward and/or punishment. The writer may create a character based on themselves or of a close friend whom they reward with a more pleasant life, filled with favorable experiences. Conversely, they may also create characters based on enemies and people they dislike, whom they punish in various ways. In acts of extreme pettiness, a writer may create a sort of "effigy" character, one with all the blessings and fortunes the writer wishes that they had or feels that they have been deprived of. The writer then strikes down their effigy in terrible, sometimes cruel and horrific ways, as a form of second-hand, imaginary vengeance. In context, a writer who for whatever reason is sexually frustrated might take that frustration out on a character who has had the fortune not to experience the same frustration, robbing them of that fortune in various ways and possibly thrusting him into a situation even worse than the writer's own. A writer who feels that they have had far too little sex might contrive a playboy sort of character who finds himself rejected by all his lovers, and forevermore bereft of that comfort. A character made in the image of a careless companion who gave the writer a venereal disease might be struck down with AIDS or syphilis that is too far along to cure. Young, pretty lovers in high school might be saddled with an unplanned baby who may or may not have a fatal venereal disease, which the lovers themselves may or may not have, and the whole lot may be killed in their prime - a revenge fantasy for someone who felt ostracized or unloved when they were the same age.

In any case, while quite therapeutic for an individual to create such a revenge fantasy or morality play, such constructions are not usually received well by others. The majority of audience members will not have experienced such misfortunes and unpleasantness in their lives, and will look at the writer's treatment of such effigy characters as cruel, unusual, twisted, and unfairly judgmental. The work will likely be derided by viewers as severe and contrived, and perhaps even the mark of an individual who could eventually present a danger to society.

In summation, while they certainly can be the products of lofty moral goals or severely sheltered upbringings, stories in which sex "attacks" those who engage in it can also be fantasies constructed out of simple petty revenge and spite. That is not to say they are inherently bad things - it is far better for an individual to write such problems out in order to vent their frustration, rather than actually going out and contriving for someone who wronged them to be harmed in reality. It is perhaps more preferable, however, that such works remain more private, and do not see quite so much of the light of day as they do now. Having a revenge fantasy is one thing; writing an elaborate script for one is another. But actually exhibiting such a fantasy for mass audiences to see draws attention to a facet of the human personality that is ugly, distasteful, and often outright frightening. It may also be closer to home than one might think; and not very many people are eager to be so introspective, to be forced to look that part of themselves in the mirror and accept it...especially through entertainment media, which is so often used to escape such ugliness in life.

Previous 10